Aughton Hypnotherapy

As of March 2019 I started my Solution Focussed Clinical Hypnotherapy training with @CPHT Liverpool.

This is an intense 10 month course which I will complete in December of 2019 and enhances the Hypnobirthing course I already teach. It enables me to treat individuals with a whole variety of depression and anxiety disorders along with phobias and stopping smoking and so much more.

The course entails many clinical hours and at the moment it is proving to be keeping me very busy!

With this in mind, it does reduce my availability and flexibility for Hypnobirthing clients and my clinic is being run alongside Little Feet Hypnobirthing.

For those of you who don’t know what Solution Focused hypnotherapy is, I’ll start with what it isn’t:

🤯It’s not stage hypnosis, I don’t send anyone away thinking they’re a chicken
🤯there’s no digging into your past, this is all about focusing on your future.
🤯there are no swinging watches/look into my eyes not around my eyes involved 😝

What Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is:

🗣”Solution Focused Hypnotherapy uses practical, modern and well researched strategies to help people make significant, positive changes in their lives in a relatively short period of time”
🗣Treatment for Phobia’s is carried out in a really gentle and relaxing way, there’s no exposure to what you have a fear of. 
🗣Is concerned with addressing the solution rather than the problem.
🗣It can be very effective in the treatment of anxiety disorders, phobias and depression as well as many other issues

I am a member of the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapists

If you feel you would benefit from some Hypnotherapy, or would like some more information please email info@aughtonhypnotherapy.co.uk for more details.

Many thanks

Jen x

Meghan, Duchess of Sussex

There’s nothing quite like reading an article where a pregnant woman who has researched and made clear her choices for her child’s birth are her informed choices and should be respected as such being called “a birth brat”.

You’ll have to forgive me if this blog comes across as a bit ranty in places, it’s possible I am, just a little bit wound up!


There’s nothing quite like reading an article where a pregnant woman who has researched and made clear her choices for her child’s birth are her informed choices and should be respected as such being called “a birth brat”.

The Duchess of Sussex, Meghan, is choosing to buck the Royal trend and my oh my is it causing a stir!

Not only has word got out that she’s opting for a Doula (a birth supporter who will provide vital support during labour and birth and very likely the postpartum period – which research has shown will reduce the intervention rate significantly) she’s also declined the usual Royal team of Obstetricians instead opting for her own team and possibly a completely different maternity unit from the Lido wing her Sister in Law and late Mother in Law birthed their babies at – Can you hear me cheering from there??

Let us not discount how educated and informed the Duchess is – she is a very intelligent woman who will have researched and taken advice from the best people in the field and is not likely to be making any decisions about the birth of their baby lightly and to call her a Brat for opting to do things differently from the women who have gone before her is to be treating her as if she was a child: undermining her and belittling her as if she is a child demanding cake instead of dinner. Something we see happen so often when a woman is pregnant and in the birth room.

As the author of today’s piece in the Metro (which spurred my blog today) Rebecca Reid states:

“Meghan is not letting anyone tell her how she’ll be giving birth – she’s insisting on making her own choices…

 If being a ‘brat’ is how you get full control of how you give birth, then sign me up. I’m delighted to be a birth ‘brat’.

Women are entitled to elective c-sections. They have the right to refuse induction, and to demand as much or as little pain relief as is safe to take.” 

We need to remember something really important; this is her birth, not mine or yours or even the Queens. The Duchess of Sussex can birth how she wants where she wants in what ever way she wants and it isn’t anyone’s damned business. I can bet that she will take everything necessary into consideration that she needs to, there will have been a lot of advice sought and considered and there is help ready and available should it be deemed required because she is not going to take undue risks, because she, above anyone else, will want her baby in her arms more than anyone else. That I can promise you.

When she married Harry, she knowingly gave up a lot of her old life, entering into the establishment will have taken a lot of commitment and sacrifice, let not forget that. Give the woman a break and let her make her own choices about how she gives birth. 

Yours Sincerely

A Birth Brat.

https://metro.co.uk/2019/04/08/meghan-markle-is-being-a-birth-brat-and-i-love-her-for-it-9131532/

One Step at a time…

Now, anyone who knows me, knows that I am not a runner. I don’t feel the urge to pull on my trainers and go for a jog, but I do admire those who do. I understand that long distance runners think about taking one step at a time in order to achieve their goals. This is exactly what I teach you to do for your birth.

“Helping you to have a more positive birth one step at a time”

I remind each couple that each surge is a step closer to holding their baby. I encourage them to visualise themselves holding their baby and taking steps towards the end goal: the birth.

I use running a marathon as a comparison to labour during the courses I teach. They are both a challenging test of endurance and mental strength in addition to physical exertion.

You can’t run a marathon without training and preparing for it for some time before hand. Or rather, it’s not a good idea to, but plenty have given it a go! Building up those miles each week, preparing mentally as well as physically for the task ahead, eating the right foods, wearing the right clothing, hydrating and thinking positively about getting over the finish line, 26 and a half miles later, are all key to good preparation. Perhaps reading up about good running techniques, joining a running club and finding like-minded people to train with are also considered?

So, compare it to labour; why not train for it? Why not attend a Birth Preparation and Hypnobirthing class where you and your birthing partner will begin to prepare for your birth mentally? Find out what will happen to your body and how you can ensure the best way of coping physically as well as mentally? Begin to train yourself to deal with the challenge in order to feel most prepared at the start line? And, potentially feeling much better at the finish line too?

Completing a marathon requires a positive mental attitude in order to reach that finish line. Labour’s finish line is to birth your baby, safely and positively. By ‘training’ for your baby’s birth, you’ll be prepared, mentally and physically.

Much of Hypnobirthing requires practise. You have to regularly listen to the relaxation tracks and train yourself to relax while at home. You’ll also need to practise the positions for labour and consider what I teach you about choices surrounding birthing your baby.

Early labour tends to be like the first 6 or 7 miles of a marathon, getting into your stride, finding your rhythm, managing comfortably. For the next 15 miles, imagine active labour. It might not be easy, but you can tell yourself you’ve got this, and you keep going at a steady pace, keeping hydrated and refuelled. The 2nd stage of labour is comparable to the final miles, edging closer to that finish line. Many athletes speak of hitting ‘the brick wall’ and saying they’ve nothing left. For some women, this is the transition between labour and full dilatation, the part when maybe they doubt themselves and need reminding by those around them, “You can do it; you are amazing; you are strong, and you can birth your baby. Those last few miles are the last few surges pushing the baby down and out into your arms.

Inspiration for this blog came from Kathrine Switzer. In 1967, she became the first woman to run the Boston Marathon as a numbered entry. When told she wouldn’t be able to do it, she proved them wrong.

As women, we can do anything we put our minds to, we are amazing, determined, unique, and strong. We need reminding of that.

Circle of Life

Apparently, the top ten song to give birth to is Elton John’s “Circle of Life” (Closely followed by “I Want to Break Free” by Queen)! I have fond memories of attending births where one mum to be laboured to the Rocky Theme (you’re humming it now, aren’t you?) And another birthed to Basement Jaxx “Where’s Your Head At?” literally as the baby’s head was making an appearance. Not your average whale songs people may have anticipated, however, it worked for them!

When I was in labour my husband compiled a playlist of album’s he thought I’d find calming. 
One album in particular worked like a charm, so much so, I had it on repeat the whole of my son’s labour, and then the whole of my daughter’s. We can’t listen to it now without being transported back to those evenings as I laboured and the music played on. 

Recent evidence has pointed out that not only does music helps distract you, as it acts through the higher centres of your central nervous system to relieve pain. Music we enjoy releases serotonin, the pleasure hormone. Music we are attached to because it brings back happy, pleasurable memories relaxes us.

So choosing music which brings to your mind happy memories and pleasant experiences, helps you to release endorphins, helping you to relax further.

It’s another reason the relaxation techniques include music, not just verbal cues. The music itself becomes a trigger for relaxation which goes on to benefit the baby once born, soothing and relaxing them when they hear it. After all, they’ve been able to hear it every time it’s been played whilst you have been playing it practising your relaxation techniques leading up to their birth!

A bedtime conversation with my 6 year old

Last night as I was settling my daughter down to sleep, she asked:

“Why do I have to sleep alone? You get to sleep with Daddy, I don’t want to sleep by myself, Can I sleep with you?”



I pondered on this one for a moment, and couldn’t give her a reasonable answer “You’re a big girl” didn’t seem to cut it, and nor did “Because it’s what we do”.

Eventually she was satisfied with her usual kisses and cuddles and snuggled down with her menagerie of cuddly animals and went to sleep.

But, it gave me food for thought.

Historically, when families were large and bed numbers were small, siblings shared beds and loneliness at night wasn’t an issue. For many having a room to yourself or even a bed of your own wasn’t up for discussion because it wasn’t a possibility. Those were only for the very wealthy. It certainly wasn’t used as a procrastination tool along with “I need a wee, can I have a drink, I haven’t said goodnight to all 63 teddies…”

When you think about new born babies and the transition they go through when they are born and the differences between being in the uterus and earth-side, they have a lot to adapt to! It’s no wonder they don’t adapt immediately.

The period of adjustment your baby goes through is often referred to as the Fourth Trimester, and this highlights why, as humans, we don’t like sleeping alone,

Babies go from being constantly held when they’re in the Uterus. It has a constant temperature, they can hear your heartbeat, voice and the blood flow to and from the placenta (as well as everything going on around you!), it’s dark and they get a constant flow of oxygen and food and it’s lovely, soft and floaty.

Compare it to being born and the temperature change, the change in the sounds around them, the sudden open space, being dressed and on harder surfaces. They’re no longer being fed constantly and suddenly they can smell things they’ve not been able to smell before, not to mention the bright lights! It’s no wonder being held where they can hear your voice, feel your warmth and hear your heart beat sooths them it it?

Soothing voices and cuddles release oxytocin, that love hormone I talk about so much, it relaxes you both, whether it’s you or your partner holding the baby.

And long after your baby settles into a routine and adjusts to the world around them, they will sooth in your arms, head on your chest, even when they are 6 months, 6 years and possibly 16.