You’ll have to forgive me if this blog comes across as a bit ranty in places, it’s possible I am, just a little bit wound up!
There’s nothing quite like reading an article where a pregnant woman who has researched and made clear her choices for her child’s birth are her informed choices and should be respected as such being called “a birth brat”.
The Duchess of Sussex, Meghan, is choosing to buck the Royal trend and my oh my is it causing a stir!
Not only has word got out that she’s opting for a Doula (a birth supporter who will provide vital support during labour and birth and very likely the postpartum period – which research has shown will reduce the intervention rate significantly) she’s also declined the usual Royal team of Obstetricians instead opting for her own team and possibly a completely different maternity unit from the Lido wing her Sister in Law and late Mother in Law birthed their babies at – Can you hear me cheering from there??
Let us not discount how educated and informed the Duchess is – she is a very intelligent woman who will have researched and taken advice from the best people in the field and is not likely to be making any decisions about the birth of their baby lightly and to call her a Brat for opting to do things differently from the women who have gone before her is to be treating her as if she was a child: undermining her and belittling her as if she is a child demanding cake instead of dinner. Something we see happen so often when a woman is pregnant and in the birth room.
As the author of today’s piece in the Metro (which spurred my blog today) Rebecca Reid states:
“Meghan is not letting anyone tell her how she’ll be giving birth – she’s insisting on making her own choices…
If being a ‘brat’ is how you get full control of how you give birth, then sign me up. I’m delighted to be a birth ‘brat’.
Women are entitled to elective c-sections. They have the right to refuse induction, and to demand as much or as little pain relief as is safe to take.”
We need to remember something really important; this is her birth, not mine or yours or even the Queens. The Duchess of Sussex can birth how she wants where she wants in what ever way she wants and it isn’t anyone’s damned business. I can bet that she will take everything necessary into consideration that she needs to, there will have been a lot of advice sought and considered and there is help ready and available should it be deemed required because she is not going to take undue risks, because she, above anyone else, will want her baby in her arms more than anyone else. That I can promise you.
When she married Harry, she knowingly gave up a lot of her old life, entering into the establishment will have taken a lot of commitment and sacrifice, let not forget that. Give the woman a break and let her make her own choices about how she gives birth.
A Birth Brat.